The Art of Being Seen: Rediscovering Purpose Through Creativity

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Grudgingly rolling over, I squinted my eyes, limiting the light filtering. I peered at my alarm clock: “6:10,” it read. I rolled over onto my back and stared through the darkness to make stern eye contact with the ceiling. “Ugh, It’s too early to function,” I thought, but life didn’t care. School, work, sleep, repeat—every day felt the same—no passion, no purpose, just a dull cycle.

It was the fall of 2022, and my days felt as bland, boring, gross, and gloomy as the fake autumn weather California brings. It marked my first semester back in person since our so-called “two-week break” had turned into years of chaos. Post-pandemic life felt disorienting. I wasn’t one of those people who used lockdown to “find themselves.” Instead, I spent that time substituting as a teacher, babysitter, and family therapist while juggling my own schoolwork, job, and other responsibilities, only to return feeling drained, behind, and bitter. The world had moved on, and I was left wondering what I had to show for it. 

Then came my 8 AM class. Fernando, my professor, had an energy that was both annoyingly chipper and oddly contagious. “Welcome to 223C, everyone! I’m so glad to be back in person with all of you; I know we’re still adjusting to the transition, but I’m hoping this will be a fantastic semester!” He then gave us a brief introduction of himself, and once that was done, he plunged us into our first project of the semester. We were to redesign a streaming website from scratch. “Be experimental! Push the boundaries!” he encouraged. I groaned at the workload but soon found myself completely obsessed. 

I spent countless hours sketching, designing, and overanalyzing—it had to be perfect. Not for the grade, but because I felt I had something to prove. To my professor, to my peers, to my parents… to myself. Maybe if I nailed this, I wasn’t as lost as I thought.

Presentation day arrived, and my anxiety felt like a full-blown rave in my chest. Presentations and public speaking had never been my strong suit. My fears must have been palpable because before I fully settled into my seat, I heard, “Shelby, you’re up.” My heart sank. In a room of 33 students, of course, I was the first to present. I blacked out for most of it, but somehow, I survived. As class ended, Fernando called me over. “Oh God, what’s gonna happen? Did I say something stupid while I blacked out?” I irrationally thought. I hesitantly walked toward his podium as everyone trickled out. In my best nonchalant “I’m freaking out, but I’m gonna pretend to be super chill” voice, I said, “What’s up?” Fernando praised me, saying I was doing a good job and shouldn’t be so hard on myself. 

“I see you,” he said. Three simple words, but they were incredibly validating. 

That moment stuck with me, not just because I felt seen, but because it reminded me why art (or design, in my case) matters. Creativity isn’t just about making things; it’s about making sense of things. It gives us direction when we’re lost, a way to process the chaos, and, most importantly, a means to connect. When I think about the world today, the uncertainty, the noise, and the endless cycle of breaking news constantly screaming at you through a phone screen, I realize more than ever that art and creativity aren’t just individual pursuits. They’re a fabric that binds us, a shared language that makes sense of everything we feel. For creative people, having a community that sees and uplifts each other can be the difference between staying stuck and finding the courage to keep creating. So that brings me to the question: Where do we go when we’re the only ones who believe in our vision?

It’s been ten months since I graduated, seven since I moved to a new state, and eight since I’ve actively been job hunting in a market that feels like I’m trying to buy a Birkin bag—strenuous, gate-kept and somehow requiring a years-long ‘relationship’ just to be considered. Side tangent: Jane Birkin represented the average busy woman, and the bag she inspired was meant to be used and tossed, not locked away behind the vault of exclusivity. If she were here today, even she wouldn’t have been able to access it, just like I apparently can’t land an entry-level role because I need five years of experience to be considered. Needless to say, my direction in life is looking a little foggy again.

I’m still lost in life, but in a different way. What used to feel like a complete lack of direction now feels like standing at a crossroads with 15 different paths, each requiring a specialized skill set and at least two out of the six infinity stones to level up, all while hoping that I don’t get eaten by a giant, bloodthirsty bear at the end of it. I’m learning (or at least trying to learn) how to navigate independence while being in a partnership, the ugly side of adulthood no one warns you about (why does my credit score feel like a toxic situationship?), career choices (or, in my case, the lack thereof), how to immerse myself in my passions and projects without being distracted by people’s opinions who don’t understand them, and how to build an online presence as a wannabe creative influencer without embarrassing myself on the internet. All this to say, during this tumultuous transition and all this uncertainty, my creativity keeps me somewhat grounded. It’s been my means of escape and a guiding force, shaping how I process and find meaning in the world.

1. The Role of Art in Society & Why It’s Needed More Than Ever

Throughout history, art has served as a mirror to society. It has been an outlet for personal expression for the average citizen, challenging norms and notions and documenting history. There are countless examples of individuals using art as a tool to describe pivotal moments. Take the Hall of Bulls, one of the oldest known pieces of storytelling evidence in the world. Dating back about 15,000 years and found in Montignac, France, these captivating paintings have several theories regarding their meaning. The most popular theory, and my personal favorite, proposed by priest Henri Breuil, suggests that these paintings were a form of “hunting magic.” His theory postulates that prehistoric people using these caves believed it was a way to overpower their prey by performing rituals to ensure successful hunts. Although we may not know their true meaning or purpose, it undeniably offers insight into a seemingly lost past. 

Another example that comes to mind is Palmer C. Hayden, an African-American painter known for depicting landscapes, seascapes, African-American life, and influences. His artwork became known during the Harlem Renaissance and focused on capturing the physiological realities of the “black experience” in the rural South and urban city backgrounds. One of his most famous paintings, The Janitor Who Paints, was coined a “protest painting” by the artist himself. The work depicts an African-American family where the husband paints a portrait of his wife and infant in a warm yet dark living room. This artwork and the tile reflect the realities of African-American artists' economic difficulties in the 1960’s. Subtle details in the work, such as the large metal trashcan next to the man and the duster and broom sitting in the background, further reflect the man's role in society, juxtaposing with his true self. Overall, this painting's deeper meaning is a much more extensive commentary on civil rights issues within the African American community. 

As we observe changes in our society's political beliefs and perspectives, art plays a vital role in cultivating connection, hope, and purpose. While traditional art forms that depict individual experiences and realities continue to thrive, I argue that a unique artistic vision and expression can emerge from the smaller, quintessential moments of everyday life. Moments like a Gen-Zer's “day in my life” TikTok video, expressively edited to the perfect song, synchronize with its intentional yet seamless transitions. Think of someone’s elaborately designed itinerary in their bullet journal, carefully curated to match its corresponding color codes and quirky stickers. Or consider the fashionista’s perceived ostentatious outfit, meant to romanticize a simple trip to the grocery store. Both large and small expressions of art provide individuals with a sense of purpose. Creatives and their actions play a crucial role in shaping culture, but that doesn’t mean our journey is easy. 

The text that inspired it all, despite it's dissuading response

2. Navigating Feelings of Self-Doubt When No One Believes in Your Vision

Self-doubt is a bitch. Trust me, I understand that feeling well. So much so I wrote a blog post titled “I’m Jealous of the People Who Inspire Me” (which you should definitely check out after this one). The only thing worse than self-doubt is when those around you doubt you, too. It’s like the final scene in Game of Thrones when Jon Snow and Daenerys gaze into each other's eyes, sharing a tender moment, and then BAM! … he backstabs her (still annoyed about that ending, by the way). Self-doubt is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be a barrier (we’ll revisit some advice and actionable tips later).

One thing I didn’t mention in that blog post is the myth of the “creative genius.” Society, pop culture, and the media love to perpetuate the idea that there are individuals so in tune with their creativity that their creative juices flow beyond themselves and transcend through space and time. That’s bullshit. There aren’t any "creative geniuses"; there are only people in touch with their authentic selves and creative direction. Every great artist has had support. Shakespeare had loyal patrons funding his plays. Keith Haring gained fame with the backing of the NYC art scene and significant collaborations with well-known artists like Andy Warhol. Michelangelo? The Pope was literally his sugar-daddy. Even the greats needed practice and support to become who we recognize them as in history today. 

As I’ve experienced in my creative and personal journey, focusing too much on external validation can damage self-esteem and hinder creative development. I’ve been personally battling this lately as I work on my personal projects (like this blog). I’m working towards realizing that my value as a person isn’t based on my productivity, creativity, or likability. My value comes from the more significant things I do, like giving back to my community, how I treat others, and showing up for what I believe in. Of course, it feels good to have others recognize you and your work. Who doesn’t like praise and approval? You’re talking to a former gold-star-driven, “academically gifted child,” and first-gen college student here. My entire upbringing revolved around seeking validation and approval (but that’s a topic for my therapist). Do you know where that got me? Ahem, refer back to the beginning of this blog post. Relying solely on external validation is detrimental to your ego if things don’t go right; if they do, you risk your ego getting too big. It’s a never-ending toxic pattern. 

The same applies if you’re solely relying on internal validation. In extreme cases, the mindset of "I don’t need anyone else. I can do it all by myself" is off-putting and overrated. It gives off desperate "pick me" energy, which no one appreciates either. Practicing a mindful balance between internal and external validation is essential for growth as a creative. Both forms of validation should serve as fuel, not a crutch. You don’t need to be the Van Gogh of your generation to deserve creating. Let’s be honest: Van Gogh sold only one painting while alive, but we wouldn't have Starry Night today if he had relied on public approval to continue painting. It’s incredibly frustrating to pour your heart and soul into your work only to face silence or, worse yet, disapproval. Just because no one’s applauding now doesn’t mean they never will (I’m speaking directly to you, former gold star children). The trick is to keep pushing forward and create despite the silence because the right people will eventually take notice.

So, how do you keep going when it feels like you’re screaming into the void? Good question, young Padwan! Let’s talk about that. 

3. The Power of Creative Community & How to Find One

Community is everything! It’s what keeps our society running and businesses functioning, and it is what kept our ancestors alive before we had basic resources like insulated walls for warmth and indoor plumbing. No one can fully operate without community, and there’s beauty in that. 

As I navigate adulthood, I’ve witnessed how isolating and challenging life can be without a support system. That’s why I try to use art and other hobbies to surround myself with like-minded people. Connecting with others who share the same values, creative energy, and passions can help motivate personal and professional growth. Being around fellow artists, designers, illustrators, and others is incredibly liberating! It makes you feel seen and understood in ways that are hard to describe. If you were or are an art student, you know the strangely unifying feeling of critique day all too well. Nothing forges a stronger bond than a group of art kids commiserating after your professor dissects and tears apart the work you probably spent the past week perfecting, pouring in money, sweat, tears, and perhaps even a bit of blood and sanity. Having a creative community feels like that…minus the ego sting and demoralizing criticism. 

Being part of a creative circle of peers has only enriched my skills as a designer in a safe, judgment-free environment. My design friends constantly share and teach me things I never would have thought to try. They provide insights on niche topics that no one else I’d talk to would understand. It’s as if they speak my language! Who else is going to indulge my yapping about the perfect Serif/Sans Serif font pairings and the gruesome challenges of using InDesign? 

You might think, “Well, I don’t have any friends, so where am I supposed to find a creative community?” Find one! There are countless places to make creative connections. Some ideas to get you started include joining a class or activity group like pottery, painting, or dance, attending conferences or networking events for creatives, exploring co-working spaces that attract freelancers and potential clients, enjoying open mic nights and art shows, and participating in community events or projects through volunteering. Here’s how I implement this in my life: I’m a member of an organization called CreativeAID, founded and hosted by my former professor, Fernando, who I now consider a mentor and friend. In CreativeAID, I not only have the chance to collaborate with other designers, I also get to create designs for the greater good. Some examples of our work include developing social media graphics for small businesses' online accounts, helping curate graphics and print materials for community events, and designing logos and branding materials for new organizations that promote community connection. 

If you prefer online interactions, there are lots of other ways to connect. You can join Facebook, Instagram, Discord, or Reddit groups, participate in online co-working and accountability groups, sign up for creative learning platforms like Skillshare or MasterClass, register for Dribbble or Behance (they’re not just for portfolios!), and engage in online creative challenges or projects. The possibilities are endless, so there’s no excuse not to find your tribe! I enjoy following newsletters from my favorite designers who inspire me and joining the online discourse. I’m also part of an Instagram group where the host shares daily art therapy prompts to follow, creating a healing and relaxing online space for me. 

Have you found your creative community?

• Yes! I love my creative besties
• No, but I'm hoping to find one soon
• I'm currently searching for my creative circle

4. How to Build a Creative Community Alone or Online

If you’re still struggling to connect with others, consider forming your own creative circle! After moving across the country and leaving my artistic friends behind, I fell into a rut and found it hard to regain my creative momentum. I admit I spent a few weeks moping under my gloomy cloud, but once I grew tired of feeling sorry for myself, I took action, leading to the birth of my creative Instagram and blog! Although this community is still small, it’s my way of expressing myself in the hope of finding like-minded individuals who share my passion for design and community. 

You can participate in any of the examples I mentioned earlier, but here are some additional ideas to help inspire your community. Start a YouTube channel focusing on your niche. Long-form content is back, baby! After years of short-form content and quick 15-second viral videos, people are tired of the typical influencers living lavish lifestyles and sharing materialistic or superficial content. There is a rising demand for the “comfort creator," a newly coined term. Think YouTube circa 2014—ahh, such simpler times. Unfiltered and relatable content is what people are yearning for once more. 

You can also start an online group where everyone works on a collaborative project. Use platforms like Discord or Instagram Channels to build this community. You don’t need to create a massive or elaborate production for it to be successful. For example, if you’re an illustrator seeking others, your group can focus on a prompt or theme each week, allowing everyone to interpret the prompt and share their work. If you’re a photographer looking to enhance your portfolio, you could organize an event where different photographers team up for a collaborative photoshoot. You can further immerse yourself and your group in the experience by sourcing volunteer models, props, and backdrops to create the perfect photo session! 

Podcasting is a popular form of media and an excellent way to build community. Your podcast can focus on your niche or explore other areas and mediums that interest you. Perhaps you invite a “special guest” for an interview each week to share their experiences or advice. Start by reaching out to people you know personally to practice and refine your interview and conversation style. As you continue to grow, consider contacting individuals you admire in your local area who would be a good fit for your show. You could also take it a step further and reach out to respected professionals on LinkedIn for a Zoom interview. You never know where these connections and relationships might lead you!  

No matter which adventure you choose to engage in, the most essential aspect of joining creative communities is fostering genuine relationships without expecting anything in return. We live in an individualistic society that prioritizes personal gains over those of the group. In contrast, collectivist societies emphasize harmony, interdependence, and loyalty. They focus on strong cultural bonds that benefit a larger group, ultimately achieving a greater good. Rather than seeking validation, offer feedback and uplift others; this naturally draws people toward you. When participating in or creating your creative communities, adopting a collectivist mindset in how we treat others is crucial for lasting relationships. 

5. How to Handle Rejection & Indifference 

Now, we can finally return to the original question I set out to answer: where do we go when we’re the only ones who believe in our vision? The simple answer is forward. When your work is met with silence or disdain, you keep moving ahead. It’s painful, discouraging, and sometimes frustrating when no one acknowledges or cares about the effort you’ve put into your creative vision. The harsh truth is that this reality is unavoidable. The most celebrated “creative geniuses” we recognize and admire today have all faced periods of disapproval and disappointment in their journeys, and sadly, some leave this world without ever receiving the recognition they deserve. Perseverance is what sets the great apart. Rejection is bound to happen, but how will you respond? 

To handle rejection, you need to become resilient and adaptable. To eventually achieve greatness, you must be willing to put yourself in uncomfortable situations and share your work with others. Not everyone will appreciate or value your creations. Furthermore, some people may take pleasure in criticizing your vision because they have nothing else going for them. In any situation you encounter, it’s important to stand by your vision and choices while also being open to criticism and exercising good judgment about whether to incorporate feedback into your work. It’s not personal, though others may try to make it feel that way. Remind yourself of the reasons you began creating in the first place. It wasn’t always for someone's approval; it was likely because you loved the process and your craft. 

More so, share your process! It’s not only about the final polished product. Allow people to connect with your creative journey and see you in your most authentic state. With the over-saturation of micro-trends and superficial content, people are craving authenticity again. No one enjoys being sold to but appreciates feeling valued and heard. Content that reflects who you are and the intention behind your work will help you build a community that recognizes and appreciates your art. You might encounter internet trolls while trying to find your audience. Although it may be tempting to respond to their comments, try to resist. Negative press doesn’t feel good, but hey, it does help with the algorithm and analytics! In a way, your haters are helping you develop thicker skin and promote your content to larger audiences. 

Redefine your rejection and use it as a means of redirection. Every “no” you receive brings you one step closer to the right opportunity. While navigating the messy and uncharted terrain of pursuing your creative vision, accept that you’ll be the underdog for a while. Every great artist or creative was ignored before they were celebrated, so take this time to experiment while no one is judging you too closely. Try to romanticize this period! Be the main character in your own story! Having a bad day? Play some dramatic, sad girl music and indulge in a long cry session. I can personally attest that a cinematic-level cry-sesh feels incredible and is strangely therapeutic. Imagine you’re at the stage in the movie where the protagonist’s life is in shambles before they achieve their breakthrough. Consider it part of your gritty origin story, your rags before riches! 

Rejection and indifference don’t mean your work lacks value; they are simply part of the journey. Sometimes, silence and rejection indicate you haven’t found the right audience or community. In some instances, it may suggest your work is ahead of its time. Other times, and probably the most likely explanation, it's just a dumb algorithm not working in your favor. Here’s a tough truth: no one who ever made an impact did so without overcoming moments of doubt. The key difference between those who succeed and those who give up isn’t just talent; it’s resilience. Learning to separate your self-worth from external feedback is one of the most complex yet invaluable lessons any creative can master. So, how do you keep going when it feels like no one is paying attention?

To summarize my post, "I’m Jealous of the People Who Inspire Me," jealousy is interpreted as an ugly, shameful feeling that we should suppress or ignore. But what if it’s one of the best creative tools available? Instead of letting it consume you, use it as a mirror. Reflect on what it reveals about your true desires. Jealousy isn’t random; it highlights qualities we desire, such as confidence, skill, or career success. Personally, I aspire to have a financially secure job and a comfortable lifestyle, which makes me feel jealous of influencers on their private jets. (I’m being honest, not bitter.) Let jealousy be your roadmap for redirection and channel that energy into experimentation. One of the best ways to free yourself from the trap of comparison is to engage in creative play. Breaking free from rigid expectations and rediscovering the joy of creativity without pressure is one of the healthiest practices creatives can embrace. Reassess your digital environment and habits. If your feed makes you feel inadequate or insecure, replace intimidating influencers with creators who inspire, uplift, and energize you. Curate a space that fosters growth, embraces curiosity, and uses jealousy to propel you forward.

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I’m not a creative guru who claims to know it all. Most nights, I barely know what I want for dinner, but I hope you find comfort if you’re a little lost, too, and that you’ll walk away with a new perspective or some advice to help in your creative journey. I’m still growing and learning how to navigate the whole adulting thing. Despite the depressingly impressive long list of job rejections in my email inbox, I'm holding on to the belief that the right position will manifest itself and that others will eventually recognize my overly ambitious creative delusions as creative vision.

So, what now? I guess we keep creating, even when no one seems to be watching. We keep showing up, even when the path isn’t clear. Rather than constantly striving to make the right decision, we focus on making our decisions right. We surround ourselves with community, live with curiosity, and trust that what is meant for us will come, probably not on our ideal timeline, but at the right time. 

And if all else fails… well, at least we can romanticize the struggle for the memoir.